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The Two Perspectives of Dementia
The Two Perspectives of Dementia

(It’s said that every story has two points of view in the same way as a coin has two sides and our illness is no exception to this!)

I’m sure that in the early stages of any dementia once we get over the initial shock that both husband and wife approach it with a positive attitude and maybe a plan of action and can still somewhat laugh and joke about some of the problems associated at that time, but as the illness progresses all laughter is lost as it becomes a whole new ball game as slowly for those of us having the illness we start to lose all rationality and awareness of it and become even more dependant on our spouse not only to take care of us but also the daily running of the household and its financial affairs, it gets to the point that for them there is no longer any quality time in there own life to do anything as and when they want since there undying consideration is with our care without a thought for themselves, for us the fight will slowly diminish without knowledge but for our spouse the problems will still be there slowly becoming more traumatic for them day by day, yes they can talk to the AZ society or friends which might momentarily help them get through the day but the problems will still remain, for us there is excellent medication to relive our suffering although in my own view all the medication is doing is to prolong the ultimate end and cause yet more stress to the spouse and family! But for our spouse there is on such medication on this earth that could relieve there own distress or bring back the quality to there life again there battle goes ever on and still lingerie’s on even after our demise.

Now I start asking myself some searing questions as I can’t bear the thought of all the problems that lay ahead for my darling wife and have often said maybe it would be better if my life just quietly slipped away now… so that my dear wife has her own life back… before its too late… as mine is now no more than an existence (I’m on a long journey with no return ticket) which makes me feel so selfish for having putting her life on hold with no return as well!

Am I scared of death, thanks to God my faith tells me “NO” but “YES” I am scared at the means of my demise with this debilitating illness AD and its subsequent affects on my darling wife and family as there lives are more important to me than my own.

Barry Pankhurst

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